How To Attract Everything You Desire Effortlessly!
If you've ever attended a self-help seminar or read a self-help book, you know that the most popular piece of advice is "think positive." But what if that's not enough? What if you're still finding things like prosperity, relationship success, and happiness elusive? Well, it might be because your thoughts are all wrong. In this article I'll share with you the seven biggest (and most common) misconceptions about attracting abundance and how to fix them.
If your life is missing something critical in five key areas (money, relationships, happiness/fulfillment, personal power/acceptance of yourself as who you are), it could well be because there's some faulty thinking holding it back. Here are the seven biggest myths about attraction and how to counter them.
You Can't Change Your Life As Long As You Think Negative Thoughts.
The thing is, thinking negative thoughts isn't necessarily a bad thing. Some of my most creative ideas have come to me when I was feeling down or depressed or pessimistic. That's when my inner critic takes over, and I'm able to see things in an entirely new light - a different perspective of things that others don't see at all! But the trouble is, negative thinking eventually becomes habitual (and we tend to spin those habitual thoughts into old, familiar stories about ourselves that keep us stuck). Our brains are mental magnets, and attract to us thoughts that are most consistent with what we frequently feed them. When you think thoughts of doubt, insecurity, fear and worry, you're telling your subconscious mind that this is what you expect to happen in reality. So it's only natural that your expectations will manifest themselves into reality.
Most of us have been taught from a very early age that being negative or pessimistic is not acceptable, so we've all developed strategies to cope with those negative feelings by suppressing them. We keep ourselves busy so we don't have time to dwell on our problems (or to think about how badly things are going in other areas of our lives). Or we distract ourselves by watching TV or surfing the internet. Or we use drugs, alcohol and other addictions to numb our feelings until those negative thoughts are almost invisible.
So it's not surprising that adults with all those strategies in place would then go to a self-help seminar and learn to think more positively because it's the opposite of what they've been doing for years!
Thinking positively doesn't change anything if you continue using your old thought-suppressing strategies (that's why you might have tried affirmations before without success).
You Need To Think Positively All The Time To Attract Good Things Into Your Life.
This is the biggest misconception of all. In fact, most people have the opposite problem. They think positively and try to visualize their success in every area of their life, and then they're confused when things don't change. Why? Because they're still doing what they've always done - suppressing negative thoughts and emotions.
What you need to be doing is shifting your focus away from trying to think positively all the time, and use your thinking mind more effectively so you become a creator of the positive outcomes you desire. In other words, it's not about always being positive; it's about using your creative mind (the part of your brain that thinks in pictures) more effectively to create the kind of reality you want.
Here's an example. You might be trying to get a raise at work, but you think and focus on the negative side of getting an increase in pay. Instead of thinking positively, you need to start thinking creatively about how to get it. Think about how you can look for ways to increase your value, or what new ideas you could use that will allow you to show up more often and make a bigger impact (rather than just getting a raise).
Most people think only in traditional thought patterns of "good" and "bad," like the following:
"I want more money; I'm going to be happy once I get more money. But I can't have more money because I don't already have it."
OR:
"I'm going to be happy when I get my first million. But I can't have a million dollars because then I won't be happy."
The truth is that there is no "good" or "bad" in the Universe, only perception. It's all about using your creative mind to come up with what you want, rather than worrying about what you don't want. This is how you make changes in your life without being distracted by feelings of fear or doubt. Most people have been taught that they can never get something unless they think positively (not to mention the emotional turmoil caused by thinking negatively over and over again). But that's a lie.
You Can Attract Good Things By Thinking Positively, But You Can Also Attract Bad Things By Negative Thinking.
That is true, but the same principle applies: if you're not thinking creatively about how to get what you want, then you're not likely to get it! There will always be negative things happening in your life as long as you continue to think and feel negatively about them. Remember, it's all a matter of perspective. No one is really ever 'bad,' they are just thinking that way. When you stop thinking negatively, it's as if the negative things stop existing to you.
If you don't think negatively, then the Universe doesn't send negative things your way, but if you carry around negative emotions on a day-to-day basis, your thought patterns will attract the same type of negative outcomes over and over again. So if you want something to change in your life and not have it be a negative thing anymore, then you have to start thinking about how to get it (rather than letting yourself get overwhelmed by your old thought patterns).
To have the life you want, you need to start thinking about getting it. It's really that simple. When you do this, you use your creative mind more effectively and it doesn't matter what the outside world is throwing at you - your thoughts will manifest themselves into reality in a positive way.
How To Be Positive ALL The Time. And What To Do If You're Still Not Getting Results.
I've had a lot of people ask me how to be positive all the time (and usually they're disappointed when I tell them it's impossible). But that's not what I meant at all.
Remember that it's not about being positive all the time, but rather about thinking creatively about how to get what you want. So if you're getting those repeated 'negative' results in your life, then you need to figure out why and then use your creative mind to come up with a way to change it.
Most people can't trust their creative mind because they've been trying so hard to think positively for so long (which just distracts them from using it effectively), or they've simply never learned how to use their creative mind in a positive way.
Conclusion.
If you're still not getting the results you want, it's not because the Universe isn't sending you those things. It's because your focus is on what you don't want (because that's what you've been thinking about for years!) So if you're not getting the positive results you want in your life, then start thinking about how to get them once in a while!
Seriously. When I used to think positively all the time, I was so overwhelmed by negative thoughts that I couldn't see a way out of my problems. There was always something to be unhappy about and nothing ever really changed in my life.