Achieve Success with Positive Communication
Destructive communication and conflict resolution are out. Positive communication is in. And it pays off in spades – from better relationships with your spouse to better brain function, a new study says that the positive power of talking can literally change your brain!
But before you get excited, you need to know how to use this awesome power for good. That’s where we come in. We’ve put together a list of simple, easy-to-follow tips that will help you talk positively, like "Take Responsibility" or "Put Yourself In Their Shoes".
Even better, you can use these tips to get your family on board – and help them boost their happiness in the process. How? By talking about these positive communication tips and having fun with them! Not only will you enjoy a closer bond with your spouse and kids, but you’ll also create a more positive environment for everyone to thrive.
So what are you waiting for? Read on to read our complete list of 100 ideas that can transform your communication skills and help you take control of every conversation!
1. Set the right tone by listening actively.
2. When someone expresses themselves, listen openly and carefully, showing that you are really hearing what they’re saying.
3. Avoid getting sidetracked by the other person’s remark when you are speaking. Stay focused on the point you want to make.
4. Be honest about your feelings, even if they’re hurtful or negative, but know how to express them in a tactful way.
5. If you need to repeat yourself in order to be heard, do so without blaming or accusing… and without making angry gestures like tapping your foot or slamming a door. Repeat calmly and firmly until the other person really hears you.
6. Remember that, at times, we all get defensive. Think about the reasons for it and work through them, instead of letting your own defensiveness make things worse.
7. Use humor to put people at ease. But be aware you may offend others if they are not in a good mood or if they have a poor sense of humor. Be careful in these situations!
8. Don’t admit fault until you’re sure what you did was wrong – even if someone is pestering you about it or trying to make you feel guilty. If you really have done something wrong, admit it, but do so tactfully and with kindness and respect for the other person’s feelings..
9. Before pointing out the other person’s mistakes, ask yourself if you would admit to and correct them if they had been made by you. If not, think twice before criticizing the other person and keep quiet.
10. Avoid being judgmental – especially when you’re stressed or tired. Instead, focus on concrete details about things that have happened or need to be done. Be specific and try to find something positive about a situation even if it seems impossible..
11. Don’t jump from one topic to another; stay focused on the conversation at hand. It shows that you are interested in what the other person is saying and can also help prevent misunderstandings..
12. If you have to give someone something or ask permission, do so in a diplomatic way: "Were you asking me for permission to…" or "Would you like me to give you...".
13. Be careful about how much information you tell someone, remembering that they may be more interested in what’s going on than you are! This can be especially true when it comes to your personal life..
14. If a child is being naughty and/or misbehaving, don’t “punish” them when they don’t know the reason why you are upset and asking them to stop the behavior. This can lead to feelings of guilt..
15. If someone accuses you of having done something wrong and you can’t deny it, admit it in a calm way: "I did something wrong and I’m really sorry". But be careful not to give excuses or try to explain the situation in your own words, because this will make things worse.
16. If someone is rude to you, don’t respond angrily yourself. This will just make things worse..
17. Don’t leave out crucial information about a situation when you’re speaking with others; if you do, they may not know what is going on..
18. If you want to tell someone something that is difficult, prepare them by saying something like "I want to talk to you about something difficult". Tell them then, don’t attack or blame.
19. Give the other person enough time to respond and talk about how they feel around certain subjects..
20. Don’t speak badly about others, even if they are not in the room: it may make people dislike or distrust you. The “other person” may overhear what you are saying and take offense for themselves..
21. Don’t criticize people behind their backs – it will hurt their feelings and cause problems for your relationships with them..
22. Be honest about what you expect from someone and tell them how you feel about them when all is well. Give enough time, especially if you think the other person is slow to catch on..
23. Don’t tell someone off for doing something wrong unless it’s important. If it is important, tell them in a positive way by praising them for doing something right and then emphasizing the particular behavior you want to change..
24. Don’t make threats that sound empty or childish, like "I'll never speak to you again" or "You're going to be sorry". Everyone will know they are empty threats and may take advantage of this by ignoring your threat..
25. If you have to criticize someone, do it in private and do not be abusive or overly critical of them. Don’t attack them personally either..
26. Don’t express your anger when angry or else you will offend the person and make them angry too. Be calm, respectful and kind and express your feelings in a way that is easy for both of you to understand..
27. If you think someone is going to be late, call ahead to let them know..
28. When apologizing, don’t try to excuse yourself by blaming someone else or by making excuses like "everyone does it" or "it was an accident". Be honest and state how you feel and what you did, but be tactful..
29. When telling a joke or asking a question, let the other person answer first and then laugh with them if they are funny..
30. Keep in mind that there are different ways of expressing your feelings and that each person may have a different way of doing it. This can cause one person to feel hurt without knowing why, when a slight miscommunication has occurred..
31. Instead of barging in on a conversation between people who are talking, wait for them to finish talking before you interrupt them with something important..
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Conclusion
If you are thinking of writing a job application, don’t forget to cover letter. A cover letter is a short but effective way of making the employer realize how much you will add value to their company. You can be very specific when writing a cover letter. If you have any doubts and questions, don’t hesitate to ask the advice of your friends or colleagues.
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