Jealousy: The Green-Eyed Monster
"Jealousy" is not a word you hear much these days. It's been replaced by the more PC "envy." Jealousy implies more anxiety and anger - it makes us lash out when we see our partner's attention diverted to someone else. Who are they talking to? Why were they thinking about them during that meeting? We can't stop imagining all the bad things that might be happening—we want evidence, but we won't find any because this may be just harmless chatter. It's all in our heads. We're jealous of their time and attention, so now we'll want to get some of it back by acting rudely or withholding ourselves.
"Jealousy" is not a word you hear much these days. It's been replaced by the more PC "envy." Jealousy implies more anxiety and anger - it makes us lash out when we see our partner's attention diverted to someone else. Who are they talking to? Why were they thinking about them during that meeting? We can't stop imagining all the bad things that might be happening—we want evidence, but we won't find any because this may be just harmless chatter. It's all in our heads. We're jealous of their time and attention, so now we'll want to get some of it back by acting rudely or withholding ourselves.
I used to be jealous all the time...especially when I was actively fighting with my husband. This was because I didn't understand that jealousy comes from within. I always imagined that the other person (my husband, this new guy, whoever) was the cause of my feelings. It never occurred to me that what happened inside of me could happen out there too. Wow, what an epiphany!
I used to be jealous all the time...especially when I was actively fighting with my husband. This was because I didn't understand that jealousy comes from within. I always imagined that the other person (my husband, this new guy, whoever) was the cause of my feelings. It never occurred to me that what happened inside of me could happen out there too. Wow, what an epiphany!
I heard that this article was going to be about "jealousy" so I thought it would be a good idea to show all the old photos of my husband and me... I'm going to go back to our wedding day and look at all the photos from the wedding, from our empty bedroom all those years ago... Showing old photos of my husband and me was interesting because it brought up a lot of memories. And there were many!
I heard that this article was going to be about "jealousy" so I thought it would be a good idea to show all the old photos of my husband and me... I'm going to go back to our wedding day and look at all the photos from the wedding, from our empty bedroom all those years ago... Showing old photos of my husband and me was interesting because it brought up a lot of memories. And there were many!
Jealousy is when you feel that your partner is seeing someone more than they are really doing… That they are cheating on you with that person. It makes you crazy.
Jealousy is when you feel that your partner is seeing someone more than they are really doing… That they are cheating on you with that person. It makes you crazy.
I was worried that this other person would take him away from me, the person I loved most. The one I wanted to spend forever with… It sounds silly now, looking back. I don't know how we ever got through that time in our relationship. Actually, it feels more like a dream now than reality...
I was worried that this other person would take him away from me, the person I loved most. The one I wanted to spend forever with… It sounds silly now, looking back. I don't know how we ever got through that time in our relationship. Actually, it feels more like a dream now than reality...
You're talking about a time when I was madly in love and ready to have a family with the man I called my soul mate. That time is gone now, forever. I've moved on and my heart is full of love for another person…but it's not the same as it used to be…
You're talking about a time when I was madly in love and ready to have a family with the man I called my soul mate. That time is gone now, forever. I've moved on and my heart is full of love for another person…but it's not the same as it used to be...
The object of my jealousy isn't just anyone… it's the person I used to dream about being with. The person I used to fantasize about being with...
The object of my jealousy isn't just anyone… it's the person I used to dream about being with. The person I used to fantasize about being with...
How do you feel when you see that guy? Do you feel jealous? Do you want him to be yours? What does this mean for you?
How do you feel when you see that guy? Do you feel jealous? Do you want him to be yours? What does this mean for you?
It happened so quickly. One day he was there and the next day he wasn't. My heart was crushed… I thought he didn't want to be with me anymore… He said it wasn't true, but I still wonder if he's looking elsewhere.
It happened so quickly. One day he was there and the next day he wasn't. My heart was crushed… I thought he didn't want to be with me anymore… He said it wasn't true, but I still wonder if he's looking elsewhere.
I feel weird about this other guy in our relationship...because something happened, and now I feel like this other guy has more of a chance at being together with my husband. But maybe that's just because love isn't fair sometimes…
I feel weird about this other guy in our relationship...because something happened, and now I feel like this other guy has more of a chance at being together with my husband. But maybe that's just because love isn't fair sometimes…
I guess I have to admit it... I'm jealous of your husband. I wanted him for so long, and now that he's with you, it kills me inside...
I guess I have to admit it... I'm jealous of your husband. I wanted him for so long, and now that he's with you, it kills me inside...
"I don't know why we haven't gotten together yet," said the guy who used to be my husband. "It might happen... someday. I can't really see it happening now, though."
"I don't know why we haven't gotten together yet," said the guy who used to be my husband. "It might happen... someday. I can't really see it happening now, though."
When you first start dating someone, everything is great... But after a few months or so, not so much. Then you meet someone else and the old feelings come back...
When you first start dating someone, everything is great... But after a few months or so, not so much. Then you meet someone else and the old feelings come back...
Conclusion:
And so my conclusion is, that if you feel jealous of someone, it's not because you're in love with them, but because you're not . You're jealous of the person who has what you want... And all you have to do is find out how to get it! In the meantime, learn to accept and be happy with what you do have. Work on improving your relationship so that person will want to be with you. Get busy working on yourself. Have fun! Enjoy life!
I don't really believe in marriage anymore... I think that marriage is an outdated institution designed for people who can't express their love adequately in any other way.